Watch Out For Signs That Your Partner Might Become Violent

It is not always obvious that you are in an abusive relationship. This isn’t just limited to physical violence alone but it entails a lot and this is why many people never know they are in one until they get a slap.

An abusive relationship can include sexual, emotional and the most common one, physical abuse.

Relationships expert Gibson Ngome tips on how to tell that your spouse might end up becoming violent.

Here are some indicators of a violent / abusive spouse.

Not Godly

A person who doesn’t fear God, chances are that he or she won’t fear harming you.

This will be because they are not nurturing a relationship with their Creator first.

When one develops a relationship with God, one values the people God has created and will not intentionally harm them.

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If they are constantly checking on you, where you are, what you’re doing, and who you’re with, there might be fire on the mountain.

This will mean that their motive of checking on you is not care or concern but to control you.

If they are always trying to control where you go and who you see, and get angry if you don’t do what they say or if you don’t disclose your whereabouts.


If your partner deliberately make threats to use violence against you, when you disagree on a small matter.

If they have very poor skills in conflict resolution and will go to an extent of abusing you.

Physical and sexual violence

If they easily push, shove, hit or grab you, or make you have sex or do things you don’t want to do, your partner is simply a disaster in the making.

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Extremely Jealous

If they are extremely Jealous and outrageously accuse you of being unfaithful or of flirting with your friends.

The idea here is to isolate you from family and friends, and have you all you all to his or herself.

It will bring you to a place of Isolation and in future you may not have someone to confide in when things turn sour.

Constant Put-downs

If they are always looking for an opportunity to put you down, and a reason to disregard you, by attacking your intelligence and capabilities.

They will compare you unfavourably to others and further blame you for all the problems in the relationship, and never take responsibility for their violent outbursts.

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NB: Run away from such relationships, Chances are in future they will blame you for their violence against you since they gave you all the reasons to walk away early enough but you still put up with them.

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